Relationships are the most valuable part of our life, and we talk about the relationship between a girlfriend and boyfriend; then this relation is the most condoling relation which requires time, effort, trust, and care. Sometimes dating someone is the most crucial part of one’s life where you go through new experiences every moment. When it’s your first relationship, you tend to remember it for your entire life as for the first time you experience loving and soothing touch, first kiss, and for sharing a bed for the first time. Nowadays, one word called “stashing” is becoming an important component of relationships. Partners are consciously making a decision to hide their relationship from kins, friends, and families. In “stashing dating” couples don’t acknowledge their relationship in the public sphere and tend to behave like normal friends or complete strangers.
Stashing in dating usually happens when the relationship is just about to begin. At the initial phase of the relationship, couples hardly know each other. They need time to understand and think seriously about each other. Stashing is more prevalent among people whose life is exposed to media. People mostly related to the entertainment industry tend to hide their relationship from the public because they won’t be able to enjoy their love life like an ordinary couple. But stashing for ordinary couples might sound like good practice in the initial phase, but over the course of time, they should publicly acknowledge their relationship. It is generally observed that to decrease the chances of a break-up, it is necessary to introduce your partner to your family and friends so that you can easily seek their help in a situation of conflict.
Why Stashing Is So Popular?
The couple might not be serious about their relationship, and they are merely dating each other for sexual pleasure. Couples might not belong to the same cultural, economical and social background, and they feel embarrassed to introduce each other in front of their families and friends. Influential people whose life is exposed to paparazzi do not talk much about their love life in the public sphere because they will have to explain about each and every action they take in their private life to public and might not be able to enjoy their love life peacefully. One of the worst reasons for stashing is couples want to show other people that they are available for dating.
Stashing in dating happens when couples behave like strangers or act like normal friends or colleagues. They don’t share pictures on social media platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat. These couples usually avoid traveling to those places where they can be easily recognized by others.
At What Level Stashing Is Good?
Stashing in dating is neither good nor bad. It depends on the mutual consent of couples. If the couple thinks that they should hide their relationship from friends and families because they are unsure about the future of their relationship, then they are free to take their own time. If couples are hiding about their relationship just to give each other enough private space, then there is nothing wrong with stashing.
Stashing in dating should be followed by mutual consent, not by any force and pressure of stasher on stashes, then the couple needs to think seriously about their relationship.
During the era of public display of affection, stashing can be harmful. Living in a world of social media where people flaunt from the brand of clothes to the profession they are part of, and same goes with relationships where one stashes might want to show her relationship but has to sacrifice his/her wishes because of pressure from stasher. At times of conflict in relationship, stashing can be even more detrimental as you can’t discuss your problems with others, might end up with a heart-breaking break-up.
Dating someone is one’s own personal choice, and it is one of the most important decisions in life, so while dating, not only hears your heart’s voice but takes little help from the brain. Rather than looking for dating someone for sexual pleasure, date a person with whom you are compatible and can spend your entire life, then the question of stashing in dating automatically disappears.
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